Sure, you could slide in your best friends’ DMs and ask them to be your groomsmen, but where’s the bromance in that? You and your boys have seen some things. You’ve known some of them longer than your soon-to-be wife. So, why not put in a little bit of effort for them? 

These groomsmen proposal ideas will help today’s modern groom pop the other question and ask their homies to be a part of the special day.

 

How to Ask Groomsmen to Be…Groomsmen 

1. Matching Ties: Make coming to your wedding easy for your lazy friends by gifting them their wedding party fits. You can even get cutesy and stuff with something like, “I need your help to TIE the knot—will you be a groomsman?” or “Time to suit up—will you be my groomsman?” If you’re planning on the groomsmen getting their own suits, you can always just send the tie with your groomsmen proposal.

2. Sunglasses: Planning on a destination Hawai’i wedding on the beach or an outdoor summer wedding in the Tennessee mountains? These sunnies come with a custom-engraved box that would be perfect for either occasion. Send the sunglasses with a note reading, “My future is only bright with you as my groomsman.” Your friends may need to put them on to hide their tears from being asked so sweetly. One thing’s for sure: They’ll need them once their eyeballs start magically sweating as they witness the real “I do.”

 

 

3. Anything Booze-Related: From whiskey mixes and custom shot glasses to personalized flasks and monogrammed decanters, anything alcohol related is a safe choice as far as groomsmen proposal gifts go. It’s 2023 though, so be conscious about these types of gifts for our sober kings out there. For your fiancé’s sake, this might also be a good time to remind your buddies that your wedding is a time to turn up and have a good time—but not too good. Your parents, your fiancé’s parents, and a lot of their friends will be at your wedding. Being a groomsman makes your friends a very visible part of the day. Encourage everyone to save the wilding out for the bachelor party.

 

 

4. Dufflebags: For our gym bros or our traveling adventure friends, try a personalized duffle bag with an invitation to “Join me on my next big adventure. Be my groomsman?” This gift is great for transporting things from wherever you’re getting ready together to the actual wedding venue. Bring it along to the bachelor party when you hit the strip in Vegas too. Or don’t, if you think it’s looking like the plot of The Hangover and you don’t want bags lost in transit.

 

When Should You Ask Groomsmen to Be Groomsmen? 

If you’ve procrastinated most things regarding your wedding, then the answer is—very likely—yesterday.

Ask as soon as possible with these groomsmen proposal ideas. If you’re still a year out and you’re already thinking about this, call us. Because you’re a unicorn, sir. Most guys can get away with inviting their groomsmen about 10 months out. This gives everyone enough time to collect those tax returns to use toward wedding day travels or hit the gym to make sure the biceps are bicep’ing through their groomsmen suits.

 

Groomsmen of The Modern Groom 

 

Once you find the most bromantic way to get everyone on board with being part of the wedding day, the next step is coordinating the fits with The Modern Groom. Gathering your hype men for your wedding day, your suit, and the groomsmen suits are some of the few things you’re exclusively in charge of. Please, for the love of your new marriage, try not to mess it up.