You got the girl. She took the ring. It may seem like your main job is done until the big wedding day, but, if you want to keep the girl and keep the ring on her finger forever, listen up. This will be the first of a lifetime of future opportunities you’ll have to stop and listen to be the best husband you can be.
So, what are your next steps?
Don’t freak out. Take a breath. This Modern Groom Responsibilities Checklist covers your top responsibilities for a happy bride and happy strides into a long and successful marriage.
1) Organize Your Side of the Family
You and your partner should work as equal partners in the wedding planning process. This day is just as special for you as it is for her! Once you finalize decisions, it’s your responsibility as the groom to communicate details to your family.
For example, sorting out the guest list from your side of the family is a major help in getting ready for the big day. Should you invite your aunt’s new boyfriend she’s only been seeing for two seconds or not? Is the address for your TikTok-traveling cousin still valid? Work with your side of the family on guests and their addresses, and bring back what you gathered to your partner. Watch her swoon at your ability to show initiative!
Discuss any financial additions your family may contribute to the wedding. Perhaps your parents offered to pay for a rehearsal dinner, the cake, or a DJ. Clarify what they will help with and adjust your budget accordingly. Doing so makes planning smoother moving forward.
2) Choose Your Wedding Day Attire and Groomsmen Attire
Avoid renting a suit or tux that someone wore for their wedding last weekend, and avoid poorly fitted suits that sag and droop in places that no one wants to see sag or droop. Your wedding day will be one of the most—if not the most—important days of your entire life. You deserve to feel and look good, you king!
Wedding dresses often steal the show, but some suits and tuxes can hold their own next to those gowns. Imagine yourself on your special day in a well-fitted black tux or a tan, black, charcoal grey, light grey, heathered navy, or midnight blue suit. Consult with one of our expert stylists to get started. Our team can get you and your squad virtually fitted and walk you through color options that match the wedding day vibes.
After you get your suit or tux, try it on and see what you (and your fiancé) think. If it’s “the one,” repeat the process for the groomsmen suits. Your groomsmen will be happy to follow your lead. And the prices for suits and tuxes don’t have to be outrageous. Check out our affordable suit/tux packages.
With “The Full Package,” you don’t have to worry about anything. We put the full look together for you and ensure everything looks perfect. Give yourself and your groomsmen peace of mind with a suit package where everyone knows exactly what to wear so you all look coordinated standing together. In other words, leave it up to the professionals (that’s us).
That’s it. Now, you’re one step closer to walking down the aisle and looking good while doing it too.
3) Planning the Honeymoon
Back in the day, American wedding etiquette noted that grooms plan the honeymoon. You can take the traditional route and surprise your bride with a spontaneous honeymoon destination. But, if she’d rather know whether you’re going to Miami or Madrid, there are still ways to plan surprise dates at the honeymoon destination. Think picturesque boat rides or tour-guided excursions. Turn to Yelp for a five-star reviewed restaurant to grab dinner and dessert.
Your efforts won’t go unnoticed. Beware, your date-planning skills from your honeymoon may be expected for the rest of the marriage moving forward!
Start on Your Groom Responsibilities Checklist with The Modern Groom
Whether you’re getting the invitation list ready or booking tickets for the honeymoon, you have responsibilities as a groom before you get to “I Do.” Get a jumpstart on your checklist by scheduling an appointment for your wedding suit. No seriously, do it right now.
The Modern Groom has your back (from head to toe!) with professionally fitted professionally fitted suits in black, grey, navy, blue, and tan, tuxedos in black, and accessories that will help you feel like your best self on one of the best days of your life yet.
Disclaimer: Looking fresh in your wedding suit or tux and following the tips in this groom responsibilities checklist may put you up for an unofficial “Groom of the Year” award by your future bride. Proceed accordingly.